As mentioned in my previous post, I revealed my attraction to submissive men and kinky side to my very vanilla friend. With this revelation came all sorts of questions, the main ones being, why would I be attracted to a submissive man and why would a man submit. Men submit for different reasons and in this post, my submissive friends explained why they do.
There are a lot of misconceptions about submissive men, she mentioned a few of them. Submissive men are often portrayed as weak, spineless, doormats, among many other negative stereotypes. This could not be further from the truth. Submission is not timidity, servility, docility or a sign of weakness. Submission is a sign of strength, one that requires and takes a great and admirable deal of courage, confidence, self-awareness, honesty, humility and maturity. It takes a confident man to feel safe and secure enough to admit his desire to give over control to a lady and actually let her have that control. The submissive men I have had the honour and fortune of meeting, knowing, befriending or dating are some of the most confident, self-assured, intelligent, well balanced and successful men I know.
Society demands men to be masculine, take constant charge however, a submissive man's deepest emotional and erotic needs and desires lie in him sacrificing his alpha male ego, offering himself to a strong, erotically powerful lady. He is no different from any other man. He simply thrives in a structured environment, one where he feels more comfortable and intimate. Submission is his expression of love, affection, romance and even his sexuality.